How To Know When Your Kids Need Therapy For Anxiety

bags-best-friends-daylight-1516440by Sandi Schwartz

Stress and anxiety play a big role in our children’s lives today. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), it is estimated that 1 in 8 children suffers from an anxiety disorder. More worrisome, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that 25 percent of teens ages 13-18 will experience some form of anxiety.

How do we know when it’s time to find a therapist for our children?

Red Flags To Look For

You know your child best, so trust your gut reaction if something doesn’t seem quite right. If you notice some of these red flags, it may be time to seek professional help:

  • Serious decline in school performance
  • Strong, excessive worries that cause problems at home or school
  • Regressive behavior like bed-wetting or separation issues
  • Frequent aches and pains, such as headaches or upset stomach
  • Difficulty sleeping and nightmares
  • Changes in eating habits
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Having low or no energy
  • Aggressive behavior, disobedience, or confrontations with authority figures
  • Temper tantrums or outbursts of anger
  • Showing signs of social isolation, suddenly withdrawing from friends (such as refusing playdates and eating lunch alone)
  • If your child’s problems persist across a variety of settings (at home, school, and with peers)
  • Thoughts of suicide or of harming themselves or others
  • When your other children are unhappy or frightened by their sibling’s behavior

*Please get immediate assistance if you think your child may be in danger of harming themselves or someone else. Call the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Why It’s Important to Seek Professional Help

If our children experience a prolonged or permanent stress response, it can develop into toxic stress. This can cause symptoms that make them feel miserable and fearful, impacting their daily life. Children and teens need therapy when they have problems they can’t cope with alone or after they have tried a few options but are not feeling any better. Sometimes, the whole family may need support while trying to work through a child’s mental health issues. Additionally, medications may be recommended for severe cases. Only an expert will be able to evaluate if medication is necessary and advise which one to try.

Once you notice a problem, don’t delay in seeking help. Experts have found that early treatment generally provides better results.

Originally from the Philadelphia area, Sandi Schwartz is a freelance writer/blogger and mother of two. She has written extensively about parenting, wellness, and environmental issues. You can find her at – where this article first appeared – and